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31 Days to a Happy Home – Day 4: Create a Vision

Hello and Welcome to Happy Mama Life! This is my series for the Write 31 Days Challenge and I’m calling it 31 Days to a Happy Home.

Day 4 – Create a Vision

(If you’re following along, you probably have noticed that I’ve gotten behind. But I’m determined not to give us, so let’s press on together, shall we?)

I hope you read the first posts in this series, so you know where I’m coming from 🙂

Now that you’ve thought about your “perfect home” and “reality” here’s the next step.

Create a vision for your home. Compare your perfect ideal and your reality and come up with your ideal of what you want to work towards in your home. What is the happy medium that would challenge you, but also be doable?

For me, several words come to mind like peaceful, clean, and happy. It took me a little while to put it into words, but this is my vision for a happy home:

To have a house clean enough for our family to enjoy day to day and to invite people into our home anytime

To have a peaceful home where relationships are of higher value than things and people matter more than the jobs to be done

To make dinner a process rather than a task, and involve everyone together

To take care of our things and enjoy what we have

To be outside as much as possible

To work together to accomplish our tasks

To have fun together and independently

 

The next several posts will be more details on each of those things. I’m looking forward to sharing those ideas with you and challenging myself in these areas.

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31 Days to a Happy Home : Day 2 – Creating a Vision

Hello and Welcome to Happy Mama Life! This is my series for the Write 31 Days Challenge and I’m calling it 31 Days to a Happy Home.

Day 2 –

Hello friends! Thanks for coming back for day 2 –  Let’s jump in!

Anyone who starts a business, a ministry, or even just plans a vacation somewhere, has a vision and a plan. Today we’re going to talk about a vision for your home. You might not have ever thought about it, but starting with what you want your home to be like and envisioning that is the first step.

So what IS a happy home? It could mean different things for different people. So what would YOUR happy home look like?

I want you to think about what your “Perfect home” would look like. I know you’re thinking “Wait a minute! Didn’t you say this wasn’t about having a perfect home?” Yes. You’re right, I did say that. And I mean it. But stick with me for a couple of days so we can work through this vision process.

A “Perfect” home for me would mean a couple of things:

  • Fresh, clean, uncluttered space
  • Laundry and dishes done every day
  • Everything cleaned on a regular basis
  • Pantry and fridge well stocked with healthy foods (and my kids actually eat them)
  • My kids listen, obey, and play well together, and help with chores around the house
  • Dinner is cooked every night in a relaxed fashion and I have everything I need at my fingertips.
  • Paperwork is completed and organized
  • We spend time enjoying outdoors, reading books, cuddling on the couch, and playing with the kids with toys they love

 

I could go on. But those are some things that I would envision as a perfect house. We’ll talk tomorrow about going from “perfect ideal” to reality, so I hope you’ll come back for that! But today take a few minutes and make your list of what would be a perfect home. I would love it if you shared it in the comments!

 

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SIMPLE LUNCHES FOR KIDS

Do you ever find yourself staring into the fridge around noon while your kids are climbing the walls and declaring that they are starving just hoping that some prepared meal is going to suddenly appear for you to take out and serve for lunch?

Me too!

Lunch is one of those things that use to stress me out. I would try every day to come up with some grand meal for my kids that wasn’t the same thing they had eaten yesterday. But I finally figured something out: my kids don’t care if they ate it yesterday! They don’t care if they have the same meal every day for lunch all the time. So I stopped trying to be super creative and decided to be super simple instead. I do have a few different options that I pull out, but for the most part lunch for kids is pretty much the same things. Here’s what we do:

Protein Choices: Cheese and Turkey cut up into bites (or something fun shapes if I’m being really fun), yogurt, peanut butter sandwich, or peanut butter spread on crackers, or a spoonful of peanut butter

Grain Choices: Whole wheat crackers, pretzels, cheese crackers

Fruit Choices: grapes, bananas, apple sauce, or oranges. (I’ll pick one or two that they have all week)

That’s it! Super simple, super quick, super happy kids, non-stressed mama.

 

Part two of how this works really well for us is this: Make lunches for the whole week!

Since I’m a stay-at-home-mom and we homeschool, we are home for lunch most days. But I figured out it was still easier to pack a bunch of lunches at the start of the week and then when my kids are unable to live without food a second longer ready for lunch I can just grab the containers from the fridge and set them on the table. It also works great for days that we have co op or head out for a playdate or even need to run errands during lunch time. I don’t have to even think about it, I just throw the containers in a bag and we’re ready to go. I like these Bento Divided Lunch Containers the best, especially since they have different colored lids for each kid.

 

Do your kids have a favorite lunch?

 

 

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BUILDING COMMUNITY AS A STAY-AT-HOME-MOM

I have a passion for building community and living and sharing life with the people around us.  But as a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) it can be a real challenge to find community and build solid relationships in between diaper changes and nap times.  Here are a few suggestions for building community as a SAHM:

  • Attend or start a playgroup – Playgroup can be so simple if you just get started. All you need are some moms, some kids, and a place to meet.  A group of moms from our church gets together every other week.  We take turns hosting at different houses so no one person feels overwhelmed, and whoever shows up, shows up.  It’s not a big commitment, and it just works as an automatic plan.  See if there are playgroups already going on in your church or neighborhood, and if not, start one!

  • Meet new people – Kids are a GREAT way to meet new people and make friends because it is SO easy to start a conversation about your kids.  Take your kids to the park or indoor playground and just start making conversation with other moms.
  • Video chat for Coffee – Let’s face it, some days it’s just too much to get out of the house.  Schedules might be crazy and getting everybody dressed and ready to get out the door can be a lot of work.  So once your kiddos are down for a nap or having quiet play time (or a movie!), grab a cup of coffee and “meet” a friend over a video chat.  Be sure to schedule it ahead of time, and be and mindful of each other’s time, but this can be a great way to sit down for a conversation without leaving the house.

  • Make friends in your neighborhood – There’s nothing better than having a friend next door or just down the street! Start building relationships with the people around you by inviting a neighbor over for coffee or to take your kids for a walk in the neighborhood.
  • Communicate frequently – It’s hard to build relationships when you only see someone once a week or a couple of times a month.  Make it a habit to communicate frequently with your friends, whether that means getting together, talking on the phone, or just sending a “How are you this week?” text once in a while.

Having children is a true blessing, but the time when they are little can be difficult to build and maintain relationships.  Take the time to make friends and invite people into your life where you are and walk through the childhood years in real community.

What are some other ways you can live in community as a busy SAHM??