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31 Days to a Happy Home – Day 4: Create a Vision

Hello and Welcome to Happy Mama Life! This is my series for the Write 31 Days Challenge and I’m calling it 31 Days to a Happy Home.

Day 4 – Create a Vision

(If you’re following along, you probably have noticed that I’ve gotten behind. But I’m determined not to give us, so let’s press on together, shall we?)

I hope you read the first posts in this series, so you know where I’m coming from 🙂

Now that you’ve thought about your “perfect home” and “reality” here’s the next step.

Create a vision for your home. Compare your perfect ideal and your reality and come up with your ideal of what you want to work towards in your home. What is the happy medium that would challenge you, but also be doable?

For me, several words come to mind like peaceful, clean, and happy. It took me a little while to put it into words, but this is my vision for a happy home:

To have a house clean enough for our family to enjoy day to day and to invite people into our home anytime

To have a peaceful home where relationships are of higher value than things and people matter more than the jobs to be done

To make dinner a process rather than a task, and involve everyone together

To take care of our things and enjoy what we have

To be outside as much as possible

To work together to accomplish our tasks

To have fun together and independently

 

The next several posts will be more details on each of those things. I’m looking forward to sharing those ideas with you and challenging myself in these areas.

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31 Days to a Happy Home – Day 3: Reality

Hello and Welcome to Happy Mama Life! This is my series for the Write 31 Days Challenge and I’m calling it 31 Days to a Happy Home.

Day 3 – Reality

Yesterday I asked you to think about your perfect home and what that would look like.

Of course, we all know that we aren’t going to have a perfect home – especially if we have kids, ha! But I think it helps to start there in our thinking to help us identify some of our goals.

So my next step (because remember, I’m on this journey with you!) is to compare my “perfect idea” with the reality of what is possible.

Some of the things on my list are completely doable with a little planning, organizing, and actually doing the work. Others are something to strive for, but most likely won’t be perfect. For example, I listed “fresh, clean, uncluttered space”. Now I have four children, under the age of six, so that doesn’t happen in perfection. There are toys and books out a lot because I want my kids to play and to enjoy reading. But it does help to have fewer toys that they really enjoy and that can be put away easily at the end of the day.

Another example would be that I wrote “dinner is cooked every night in a relaxed fashion and I have everything I need at my fingertips. Again, I have kids so “relaxed fashion” is a pipe dream! But I can save myself a lot of brain work by having a list of meals we enjoy and by knowing what we are having for dinner early in the day.

Those are just my examples, I know you will have your own. I’ll continue this idea of casting a vision for your home tomorrow, but start today by looking at your “perfect” list and thinking about which ideas are doable and which ones need some tweaking to fit into your reality.

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31 Days to a Happy Home – Day 1

Hello and Welcome to Happy Mama Life! This is my series for the Write 31 Days Challenge and I’m calling it 31 Days to a Happy Home.

Day 1

First of all I want to say this series is 31 days to a happy home … not a perfect home, not a home where nothing ever goes wrong, and not a “we have it all together” home.

For one thing, this is the first day of the writing challenge and if you could see me now you would know that it’s 10:00pm and I’m typing this post. I was planning to write it this morning, and then at nap time and then sometime this evening. But today I’ve had a sick child, a baby off his normal schedule, and a couple of wild boys. So let me start off by saying that my house is definitely not perfect. But this series is meant to be an encouragement to you, and honestly, to me.

I want to look at what really makes a happy home and what are some practical steps that you and I can make to move towards a happy home for ourselves, our family that resides in our home, and our extended family and friends that we welcome into our homes.

I hope that you’ll join me in this journey towards a happier home and that it will be an encouragement to you.

If you’re new here at the blog, I’m Hannah and I’m a wife to Harrison and a mom to four kiddos under six years old. I use this blog to share encouragement to mom and tips and tricks for busy women. I share the same kinds of things over on my youtube channel if you’re interested in that. You can check that out here. 

I would love to “meet” you, so please comment and let me know you’re here and how I can help!

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BUILDING COMMUNITY AS A STAY-AT-HOME-MOM

I have a passion for building community and living and sharing life with the people around us.  But as a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) it can be a real challenge to find community and build solid relationships in between diaper changes and nap times.  Here are a few suggestions for building community as a SAHM:

  • Attend or start a playgroup – Playgroup can be so simple if you just get started. All you need are some moms, some kids, and a place to meet.  A group of moms from our church gets together every other week.  We take turns hosting at different houses so no one person feels overwhelmed, and whoever shows up, shows up.  It’s not a big commitment, and it just works as an automatic plan.  See if there are playgroups already going on in your church or neighborhood, and if not, start one!

  • Meet new people – Kids are a GREAT way to meet new people and make friends because it is SO easy to start a conversation about your kids.  Take your kids to the park or indoor playground and just start making conversation with other moms.
  • Video chat for Coffee – Let’s face it, some days it’s just too much to get out of the house.  Schedules might be crazy and getting everybody dressed and ready to get out the door can be a lot of work.  So once your kiddos are down for a nap or having quiet play time (or a movie!), grab a cup of coffee and “meet” a friend over a video chat.  Be sure to schedule it ahead of time, and be and mindful of each other’s time, but this can be a great way to sit down for a conversation without leaving the house.

  • Make friends in your neighborhood – There’s nothing better than having a friend next door or just down the street! Start building relationships with the people around you by inviting a neighbor over for coffee or to take your kids for a walk in the neighborhood.
  • Communicate frequently – It’s hard to build relationships when you only see someone once a week or a couple of times a month.  Make it a habit to communicate frequently with your friends, whether that means getting together, talking on the phone, or just sending a “How are you this week?” text once in a while.

Having children is a true blessing, but the time when they are little can be difficult to build and maintain relationships.  Take the time to make friends and invite people into your life where you are and walk through the childhood years in real community.

What are some other ways you can live in community as a busy SAHM??