Being a mom is filled with many tasks and to-dos. And in-between the tasks there are a hundred things to be done that aren’t even on the list. “Mommy I need a bandaid”, “I’m hungry,” “Can you play a game with us?”. And because those are the things that are most important to me (and probably to you), it’s hard to feel like I accomplish anything most days.
Do you feel the same?
Oh good. I’m glad I’m not alone!
But I have finally figured out how to get done the things that really need to get done. And the secret is actually really simple.
I know, you’ve probably heard it before, and I had too. But the key has really been creating simple (SIMPLE SIMPLE SIMPLE) routines and following through with them every day with very few exceptions.
Here’s exactly how I have done that.
1 – I wrote a list of the things that really needed to be done. And some of them were the things I was really struggling with. And to start with I kept it to the most basic things. I felt like I could add more things later if I felt like I got these under control. For me they are: Get dressed every morning. Empty the dishwasher and wipe the counters and table after breakfast. Start a load of laundry in the morning and have it put away before bed. Have the floors cleaned up before bed.
2 – Decide when those tasks need to be done and assign them to one of two routines: Morning Routine and Evening Routine.
3 – Create the exact routine for Morning and Evening with the needed tasks and WRITE THEM DOWN and POST THEM. This is KEY! I simply wrote the routines on sticky notes. My morning routine is in two parts because I have one part of the routine straight from getting out of bed before I leave my room and one part in the kitchen during and after breakfast. So I have a sticky note on my bathroom mirror that says: Put on clothes, Wash Face, tinted moisturizer. Then one in the kitchen says Empty and Load Dishwasher, Wipe counters and table, start laundry. Next to the Morning Routine is my evening routine. It says Load and Start Dishwasher, Clean off counters and table and wipe off, Make Coffee, Fold and Put away Laundry, Lay out clothes for tomorrow.
That’s it. As long as I do those things the house doesn’t get crazy or overwhelming. And it was a lot of work to do all of those things at first, but with the help of the reminders and seeing what a difference it made they are now second nature. They have become a habit!